The Truth About Why Marriages Fail—and What You Can Actually Do About It

By Julie Nise

Let me say something that might make a few people uncomfortable:

Most of what you were taught about relationships, communication, and even therapy is wrong. Not because people meant to mislead you—but because traditional approaches simply don’t work.

I’ve spent over 20 years helping couples repair broken trust, rebuild connection, and actually change how they relate to each other. And I’ve also spent time in the world of traditional therapy, earning the degrees, attending the programs, jumping through all the hoops. What I discovered?

The system is built to talk about problems—not solve them.

And if you’re in a marriage that feels disconnected, cold, or tense… you don’t need another hour of rehashing what went wrong. You need real tools that change how you communicate, how you show up, and how you move forward.

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Why Most Marriages Fail

It’s not about money.

It’s not about infidelity.

It’s not even about “falling out of love.”

The real reason marriages fail is because of poor communication and unmet expectations—usually unspoken ones. We assume our partner should know how we feel. That they should understand our needs. And when they don’t? We blame them.

But here’s the truth: The real meaning of your communication is not what you meant. It’s the response you get.

That idea alone has saved hundreds of relationships I’ve worked with. Because when you stop focusing on your intention and start focusing on your impact, everything changes.

Why Therapy Doesn’t Work for Most Couples

Yes, I said it.

And I say it as someone who’s been through the system.

Most therapy teaches you to analyze, dissect, and “process” your emotions. That might feel good in the moment—but it doesn’t actually change your behavior or your relationship dynamic. You end up stuck in the past instead of building a future.

That’s why I pivoted from therapy to what I now call Outcomes Only. Because I’m not interested in talking about your problems forever. I’m interested in getting you results—faster than you think possible.

What Actually Works (Even If You’re on the Brink of Divorce)

What works is clarity.

What works is honesty.

What works is a system you can follow—not some vague idea about “doing the work.”

If you and your partner are willing to take responsibility, learn how to communicate differently, and stop keeping score, I can help you make progress almost immediately.

In fact, most couples I work with start seeing dramatic improvements in the first few sessions. Not because I’m a miracle worker—but because I use tools that actually work, like NLP, hypnosis, and strategic coaching that bypass all the drama and get to the heart of the issue.

You Don’t Have to Be Another Statistic

Roughly 55% of first marriages end in divorce.

Second marriages? Fail even faster.

And if kids are involved from prior relationships? The odds are worse—closer to 75% failure.

But here’s what those numbers don’t tell you:

They don’t tell you that most of those couples never got the right help.

They went to therapy.

They read the books.

They “tried everything.”

But they didn’t learn how to actually change.

If that sounds like you, I want you to know—there’s still time. If love still exists, if there’s still a willingness to show up and do something different… you don’t have to walk away.

Ready to get out of the pain and into progress?

Let’s talk. Click below to schedule your free private strategy call.

📍 Outcomes Only by Julie Nise

🚫 No endless therapy

✅ Just real, practical tools that work